Maybe people just need to have their partners/family members/friends make the most crucial decisions for them, and see for themselves how well “but I did it for you!” justification works and how much worse it actually makes you feel.

Honestly, Anon – I get where you’re coming from, but I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. I’ve had someone do something very similar to me. I’ve been the one left standing there gaping while someone does something incomprehensibly shitty and then refuses to see that they were wrong (and yes – they too had reasons that I actually understand and can sympathize with but still here we are and their decision was the wrong one and it damaged my relationship with them permanently.)  It’s the shittiest feeling in the world. I’m truly glad for everyone that doesn’t understand why I’m not ok with Silver’s decisions that they’ve apparently never had someone do that to them. For anyone who has had someone do that, though, and still supports his decisions – I don’t get it. I’m sure you have your reasons, but I truly do not understand and I don’t think I’m going to or that I want to. I’ve fought hard to get to the point where I understand that I’m allowed to be angry about what happened and I’m not turning back on that now.