One of the problems with emotional abusers is that they know all the little nooks and crannies in your head that they can crawl into to plant doubt so that you never have a life of your own because they put them there. And some part of you knows that these people absolutely should not be your source of advice on literally anything but there’s that other, bigger part that wails “but I SHOULD be able to go to them with anything!”, especially when it’s your parents.
after years of being vaguely confused when I came across the measurement “a stick of butter” in recipes, today I learned that in the United States they sell butter in these skinny stick things:
it is literally a stick of butter. A STICK OF BUTTER.
i have literally never seen butter sold this way. each stick one only amounts to ½ a cup of butter AMERICANS PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT MY WHOLE LIFE WHEN I SAW THE PHRASE “A STICK OF BUTTER” IN RECIPES I WAS IMAGINING THIS:
THIS IS THE ONLY “STICK” I’D EVER SEEN BUTTER SOLD IN. I THOUGHT Y’ALL WERE THROWING FUCKIN’ POUNDS UPON POUNDS OF BUTTER INTO THINGS HOLY JESUS THE WORLD MAKES SO MUCH MORE SENSE NOW FUCKIN CHRIST.
It’s also a little out-dated, I think, but it’s the umbrella term I’m most comfortable with, at least currently. I’m fond of it.
lgbt is four letters….the extra letters people add makes it more confusing
LGBT excludes members of our community both visually and through implication, which can shut them (us) out of conversations where they have every right to be, and makes it easier to say that those same members of our community don’t belong in spaces where they also have every right to be.
We’re never going to have an acronym that covers every possible label. The closest we’ve ever come is “queer.” But that doesn’t work for everyone, and so we quest on, boats beat back ceaselessly by the tide, seeking something that works.
Not for nothing, but in America, at least, there’s a strong trend of “unless you’re the BEST at it, you need to stop doing it.” Somewhere around 5th grade, kids get it into their heads that if they’re not some sort of art prodigy already, then pursuing it (and actually, y’know. Practicing and learning) is a foolish, childish notion.
The idea that someone could just do something for FUN? Not entertained.
This mindset is why I didn’t get back into drawing until I was like 22 – practice that shit you’ll get better
Even if you are talented and employable in the arts from a young age (I did professional theatre for years as a kid) the idea that you can’t keep doing it or that it’s just a phase gets hammered into you constantly.
Let me repeat that. I was making money, getting jobs but I was still told to “pick something more realistic”.
Our culture robs itself of art and performance.
I’ve literally made money off my writing and the reaction from both my parents (admittedly, they’re both abusive shits) was “shame you can’t publish that as a novel.” There’s this pervasive, toxic, awful attitude in this country that no matter what you’re doing, it’s not good enough, it’s not making enough money, it’s not ENOUGH unless you’re a fucking billionaire.
What people think perfectionism is: I’m going to do this 1,000 times until it’s completely perfect, and it doesn’t matter how tired I am or how many times I fail. Everything I do is super precise and I have absolute confidence but also am super pedantic about getting it right.
What perfectionism actually is: If I don’t get this right on the first try I’m going to cry in a corner and call myself a failure for the rest of my life. I’ve gotten nothing productive done because of this.
Remember when you talk about the #prisonstrike to talk about what prisoners are striking for.
It is about prison slavery, but it is also about more than that. It is a
comprehensive human rights platform which identifies key injustices in
the system
The list of demands was crafted to raise this platform into US and
international consciousness and we do a disservice to prisoners when we
don’t center it
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