30, She/her. Used to be DreamingPagan a long time back. Multi-fandom, mostly Black Sails these days but with a lot of Tolkien and funny things interspersed. Complete language and history nerd - be warned. I write fic and occasionally I talk about ships.
y’all know that john mulaney quote “the things crazy people say mean nothing to them but everything to me?”
every time i hear that quote, i think about how i got this light-up pen
i got this pen four years ago when i was working as a barista at starbucks. I was on the registers and taking the order of this woman, who ordered a nonfat latte, because she was “watching her weight”
so this guy behind her, whom no one was talking to, for some fucking reason says “wathing your weight? but what about the wait for your watch?“ (which is a completely unhinged response. like just complete Mad Hatter nonsense)
anyway this lady gets really uncomfortable and of the five people (me, him, her, the other checker, and the customer at the other register) who were now sucked into the uncomfortable silence, i decided that i should alleviate the tension by saying “you can’t wait for a watch; you don’t have the time”
and then he said “oh, quick girl!”, gave me that pen, got out of line, and left without ordering anything
art takes hours to produce and seconds to consume so dont act suprised when artists get upset when their posts only get likes and no reblogs
similarly a piece of writing that takes a few minutes to read could have weeks of work behind it… dont take creativity for granted when ur getting it for free
“Use your gifts and your talents to greatest possible effect while you can. Spread joy wherever possible. Laugh at jokes. Tell jokes. Make puns and bugger the embuggerances. Read books. Read my books. You might like them. You might find something else you like even more than them. Look for these things in life.
Question authority. Champion good causes. Speak out against injustice. Do not tolerate bullies or bigots or racists or anti-intellectuals or the narrow-minded. Use your education to challenge them. Broaden their perspectives. Make the world you interface with a happier place.
These are your choices. Choices you have been fortunate to have been given, so don’t waste them while you have them. Don’t look back in years to come and wish you had grasped a fleeting opportunity. Grasp it now with both hands, Live. Strive. Love.
I made a thread on twitter for #AsexualAwarenessWeek. Since we’re reaching the end in a couple of days. Here’s the easy info!
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Ace’s can be romantically attracted to any gender, or no gender at all. (A lack of romantic attraction is called Aromanticism. Not Asexuality). Ace’s can be happy in monogamous or polyamorous relationships, or in no relationship at all.
#Asexuality is a lack of a sexual attraction. You are not automatically aromantic if you are asexual, but some Ace’s are *also* Aro. Both Asexuality and Aromanticism have spectrum’s, and often overlap. Many asexual people seek romantic relationships.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. However it is also a spectrum. Grey-Ace’s experience sexual attraction under limited/specific conditions. Demisexuality is a lack of sexual attraction until a strong bond is formed (this does not automatically mean every strong relationship leads to sexual attraction forming.)
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. It is not a lack of sex-drive. Some asexuals have a low sex-drive, some have a regular drive, some have a high drive. Libido is based on hormones, and stress levels. Not on sexual attraction.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Not sex-repulsion. However, many asexual people can be sex-averse, sex-repulsed, or sex-indifferent. Many asexuals can also be sex-favourable. (sex-positive/negative are political views, and not to be confused with personal preference.)
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Not a choice. It’s not to be confused with celibacy, which is a choice to abstain from sex. Usually seen among those who practice religion, or by those with personal reasons.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Some Ace’s choose to have sexual relationships because they enjoy the physical act of sex, or they have an allosexual partner (sharing consent & communication). They may enjoy the intimacy, or they may even be trying for a family.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Ace’s can be any gender, whether that’s cis, trans, non-binary, agender, or intersex. Regardless of an asexual persons gender, they are still asexual. If you’re asexual, aromantic, and agender, then congrats on the Triple A ;D
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Throughout history, there hasn’t always been words or terms to describe experiences, as these things were often dismissed, or were written off as mental illness, spousal disobedience, or just went undocumented.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. It’s not a mental illness, or ‘being a prude’, or not finding the ‘right one’, or ‘being broken’, or something that can be forcibly fixed through sexual assault, or conversion therapy. Sadly, these things have, and do still happen.
#Asexuality is a somewhat modern term dating back to the 1960’s. Other terms in relation have been ‘monosexual’, Kinsey’s ‘group x’. In 1896, concepts of asexuality were documented in Germany, by Jewish physicist and sexologist, Magnus Hirschfeld.
In history, a related term of ‘spinster’ was often used for women who never took husbands. However, this ‘term’ has also been shared by others in the queer community among those who did not wish to engage in a relationship with men, or to marry.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Like with most queer experiences, self awareness, acceptance, and information can arrive at any stage during life. Some people realise young, some people realise midway through life, some people realise far into life.
#Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction. Ace’s can have relationships that are long term, short term; happy, unhappy; local, long distance; monogamous, polyamorous, etc. All relationships vary in their experiences, whether or not those experiences are good, or great, or bad.
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