One of the problems with emotional abusers is that they know all the little nooks and crannies in your head that they can crawl into to plant doubt so that you never have a life of your own because they put them there. And some part of you knows that these people absolutely should not be your source of advice on literally anything but there’s that other, bigger part that wails “but I SHOULD be able to go to them with anything!”, especially when it’s your parents.