Extremely unfriendly pointed reminder that just because an emotional or verbal abuse victim does not recognize what is being done to them as abuse at the time that it occurs, that does not mean that it’s not abuse. They can smile, they can even agree with their abuser, and it does not mean that what’s happening is not abuse. It simply means that the person being abused has been conditioned to recognize that particular thing as normal. They’ve come to accept that what their abuser says about them is correct – that’s the goal of any abuser. That’s the fucking point, and if you think that because someone doesn’t show signs of being angry or hurt at the time, they’re not being abused, you’re fucking wrong. Period, full stop, offense meant.