@bean-about-townn replied to your post

im so sorry – and you don’t sound at all selfish, it’s a shitty situation

Thanks. I feel shitty complaining about this when he’s the one our idiot father has never treated like he mattered, but at the same time that’s… not a reason to leave me to take care of everything and just completely absolve himself of all responsibility as if no one’s going to have to deal with things since he won’t.